So, you have read our previous 4 blogs about divorcing a narcissist and you are considering mediation but how do you find a mediator who specialises in dealing with narcissists:

• Look for mediators who have specific experience and training in handling high-conflict divorces, especially those involving narcissistic personality disorder.
• Check if the mediator is a member with organisations like Resolution and the FMC or FMA that ensure mediators maintain certain levels of training.
• Ask potential mediators directly about their approach to dealing with narcissistic behaviours like lack of empathy, unwillingness to compromise, and avoidance of responsibility.
• Ask the mediator whether they use shuttle mediation or are trained in the hybrid lawyer assisted mediation model.
• Seek referrals from divorce lawyers, therapists, or other professionals who have worked with the mediator and can attest to their effectiveness in high-conflict cases.
• Consider mediators who work with a team of professionals, such as financial advisors, coaches, counsellors and child specialists, to provide comprehensive support throughout the process.

The key is to find a mediator who not only understands narcissism, but also has specific strategies to navigate the unique challenges it presents in the mediation setting. Taking the time to talk with potential mediators can help ensure a more productive and equitable process.

At Family Mediation at Mentoring LLP, we are accredited mediators who have previously worked as specialist family lawyers so have real experience of dealing with very high conflict cases. We do offer shuttle meetings and 2 of our mediators, Claire and Rachael, are trained in the hybrid mediation model. If you would like to talk with us about whether mediation can help you resolve the issues involved with your separation and/or divorce you can book a free call on our website, www.familymediationandmentoring.co.uk or email us at hello@familymandm.co.uk

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