Christmas presents can cause a huge amount of anxiety for separated parents.  What will each parent buy?  Will it be a joint present?  Who will buy the “must have” gift?

More than anything, it is important for separated parents to communicate and consider each other's opinions when buying gifts for their children, to ensure that the gifts are appropriate and respectful of the other parent's wishes and that the children get to enjoy the joy of receiving gifts from each parent, which the parents will also each enjoy giving.

Somethings to bear in mind would be-

·      If giving a joint gift, how will this be given and when?  Where will the gift be kept and how will the child feel about that.

·      If giving separate gifts, make sure they are discussed and not duplicated. Think about budgets that are appropriate and reasonable for both parents.

·      Be thoughtful and considerate of the child's situation- are they going to be able to enjoy the gift given as intended?

·      Consider gifts that promote family activities, such as a games, kits or items that help children living in two homes after divorce.

Along with gifts for children, thinking about the other parent at Christmas can be important to show respect of a co-parenting relationship.  Encouraging children to buy or make gifts for their other parent and important family members, teaches both the joy of giving but also sends a positive message about family and co-parenting to a child.

If you would like to discuss how mediation can help resolve co-parenting difficulties or discuss what can go into a parenting plan to help the co-parenting of tricky issues, drop us an email at hello@familymandm.co.uk or book a free call through our website.

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