Helpfully this book makes it clear that there is no such thing as a perfect parent. Instead, the authors focus on doing the best we can for our children's development by having at least one person “show up" for them. By showing up, the authors talk about being physically present and providing quality of presence. This reliable presence can impact the architecture and connectivity of brain.

The book also covers the benefits of a secure attachment and how this can be earned and learned. The importance of creating a secure base is dealt with, made up of responding to the needs of children defined as Safe, Seen, Soothed and resulting in Secure. When we mess up as parents (which we will) it is important to repair the damage as soon as possible.  

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This book is helpful to guide parents through the important issues of secure attachment and how we can change the narrative and alter the future for our children and grandchildren. This can also be a helpful book to reassure parents who are separated and worry about how the other parent is dealing with the children.