How to communicate effectively with your ex-spouse during divorce
Communicating effectively with your ex-spouse during a divorce can be challenging
It's important to maintain a level of respect and civility to make the process smoother. Here are some tips on how to communicate effectively with your ex-spouse during a divorce:
- Choose the right means of communication: If face-to-face communication is not appealing, stick to email or telephone. Avoid verbal mud-slinging matches with your ex- spouse on the telephone, stick to email or What's App or if all else fails, communicate through your mediator or lawyer.
- Be respectful: Refrain from name-calling, sarcasm, and other forms of belittling behaviour. If you are feeling overwhelmed or emotional, it is acceptable to take a break from the conversation. Let your ex-spouse know that you need some time to calm down, and then pick up the conversation at a later date.
- Stay on topic: Stick to the issues at hand and avoid bringing up past grievances or perceived misdeeds. Focus on the present and future, and work together to find solutions that work for everyone involved.
- Compromise: When you choose to compromise, you encourage your ex-spouse to do the same. This approach leads to better communication and better outcomes for everyone involved.
- Avoid unnecessary communication: You may tend to reach out to your ex-spouse too often or try to get in touch with them when it’s not necessary. While this may be your way of dealing with the guilt or pain, it can have an adverse effect on your ex-spouse, especially if they need some time apart.
By following these tips, you can communicate effectively with your ex-spouse during a divorce and make the process smoother and less stressful for everyone involved. Remember to prioritise respect, civility, and compromise to achieve the best possible outcome.