What if I can’t bear my ex?

How can mediation work if the thought of speaking with your ex is too difficult?

A concern for anyone coming to mediation is often the prospect of having to see a former partner with whom a relationship has ended badly or where some time has passed and there are anxieties over seeing and speaking to that person again.  This is not uncommon and something we discuss with clients in the initial MIAM meetings before joint meetings take place.  

Where there are concerns or anxieties, discussing these with your mediator can mean helpful solutions or alternatives can be put in place which could include:-

1.      Online rather than face to face mediation

2.      Hybrid mediation , where your lawyers come to the meetings with you.

3.      Shuttle mediation – where you are not in same physical or virtual rooms.  

Where it is safe to do so, we would always encourage people to try and mediate because once the first meeting has taken place the initial anxiety often reduces which can enable solutions to be discussed that might otherwise not be possible without cost, delay and stress for all.  Often the online mediation meetings are a good steppingstone to help improve communication where there has been none. We are often told by our clients that it wasn’t as bad as they thought it was going to be.

For more information or to discuss any concerns you may have, please contact us at hello@familymandm.co.uk or call us on 0800 206 2258. You can also book a free 20 minute call with us using the Book Now facility on our website.

Other Blog Posts

Can you change your name after divorce, and can you change your child’s name?

Can a spouse keep their surname or change it after divorce? Can a child's name be changed?

By
Claire

Can a spouse be forced to change their job or work fulltime after divorce?

What happens if one spouse works part time or is not earning as much as they could when they divorce?

By
Claire

Can one parent exclude the other from school or medical decisions relating to their child?

Can a parent be excluded from their child's medical appointments, school events or decisions?

By
Claire

Online Mediation – The Future of Family Dispute Resolution

The rise of online and video mediation means families can now access dispute resolution from anywhere

By
Rachael

Family Mediation - The Cost-Effective Solution for Separating Families in 2025

As legal fees and living costs continue to rise across the UK, more families than ever are searching for ways to manage separation that are both affordable and constructive

By
Rachael

Why Use Mediation First in Family Law and what is an FM5?

Recent reforms in family law have made mediation and other ways of resolving disputes, not court, the default starting point for separating families

By
Rachael
View all Blogs